Health Coach Jaye believes strongly in people pursuing their Passionate Purpose, Meaning and JOY, whether it is for 15 minutes a day, an hour a day, on the weekends or full time. In fact, she believes and coaches that JOY = PASSIONATE PURPOSE + MEANING. She helps people find JOY in every day life which in turn changes their lives. In addition to her work coaching cancer patients to help find their "Why," which propels them out of bed each day to fight for the beauty life still has to offer. By harnessing the power of positive thinking, meditation, finding purpose, meaning, JOY and your "Why" and turning it into a force for good, Jaye has changed the lives of children, teens and adults of all ages giving them renewed hope and inspiration while also doing good in the world and even creating their own businesses.
As a bibliophile and life-long "quote person," the following are some of Health Coach Jaye's favorite inspirational quotes from Dr. Viktor Frankl's seminal book, Man's Search for Meaning, legendary basketball coach, John Wooden, "The Wizzard of Westwood," and researcher-storyteller, Dr. Brene Brown among others:
“Life is not primarily a quest for pleasure, as Freud believed, or a quest for power, as Alfred Adler taught, but a quest for meaning.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search For Meaning: The classic tribute to hope from the Holocaust
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
“Those who have a 'why' to live, can bear with almost any 'how'.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
“Don't aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run—in the long-run, I say!—success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
“Love is the only way to grasp another human being in the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but yet ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
“Even though conditions such as lack of sleep, insufficient food and various mental stresses may suggest that the inmates were bound to react in certain ways, in the final analysis it becomes clear that the sort of person the prisoner became was the result of an inner decision, and not the result of camp influences alone.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
“It is well known that humor, more than anything else in the human make-up, can afford an aloofness and an ability to rise above any situation, even if only for a few seconds.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
“Fear makes come true that which one is afraid of.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
“Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life to carry out a concrete assignment which demands fulfillment. Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s task is as unique as is his specific opportunity to implement it.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
My favorite John Wooden quotes:
"Ability may get you to the top, but it takes character to keep you there."
"Seek opportunities to show you care. The smallest gestures often make the biggest difference."
"Be true to yourself.
Make each day your masterpiece.
Help others.
Drink deeply from good books.
Make friendship a fine art.
Build a shelter against a rainy day.
Pray for guidance and give thanks for your blessings every day."
"You can’t live a perfect day until you do something for someone who will never be able to repay you."
"Don't let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do."
"A coach is someone who can give correction without causing resentment."
"It is amazing how much can be accomplished if no one cares who gets the credit."
"Listen if you want to be heard."
"Five years from now, you’re the same person except for the people you’ve met and the books you’ve read."
"Things work out best for those who make the best of the way things work out."
"Be quick, but don't hurry."
"Consider the rights of others before your own feelings, and the feelings of others before your own rights."
"It's what you learn after you know it all that counts."
"You are not a failure until you start blaming others for your mistakes."
"Success comes from knowing that you did your best to become the best that you are capable of becoming."
"Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be."
"The key ingredient to stardom is the team."
"The man who is afraid to risk failure seldom has to face success."
"If you don't have time to do it right, when will you have time to do it over?"
“You show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future."
"A coach’s primary function should be not to make better players, but to make better people."
"A good coach can change a game. A great coach can change a life."
"Many building custodians across the country would tell you that UCLA left the shower and dressing room the cleanest of any team. We picked up all the tape, never was there soap on the shower floor for someone to slip on, made sure all the showers were turned off and all towels were accounted for. The towels were always deposited in a receptacle, if there was one, or stacked nearly near the door. It seems to me that this is everyone's responsibility-not just the mangers's. Furthermore, I believe it is a form of discipline that should be a way of life, not to please some building custodian, but as an expression of courtesy and politeness that each of us owes to his fellow-man. These little things establish a spirit of togetherness and consideration that help unite the team into a solid unit."
"It is important to understand the purpose of criticism. Criticism is not meant to punish, but rather to correct something that is preventing better results. The only goal of criticism or discipline is improvement. You must keep that in mind and try to the best of your ability to use tact."
"You can do more good by being good than any other way."
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Coach John Wooden’s 15 “Building Blocks” of the Pyramid of Success along with quotes on each, compiled by entrepreneur Rob Kelly:
Industriousness — “There is no substitute for hard work. Worthwhile results come from hard work and careful planning.”
Enthusiasm — “Enthusiasm brushes off upon those with whom you come in contact. You must truly enjoy what you are doing.”
Friendship — “Friendship comes from mutual esteem, respect and devotion. Like marriage, it must not be taken for granted but requires a joint effort.”
Cooperation — “Cooperate with all levels of your co-workers. Listen if you want to be heard. Be interested in finding the best way, not in having your way.”
Loyalty — “Loyalty to yourself and to all those depending upon you.”
Self-Control — “Practice self-discipline and keep emotions under control. Good judgment and common sense are essential.”
Alertness — “Be observing constantly. Stay open-minded. Be eager to learn and improve.”
Initiative — “Cultivate the ability to make decisions and think alone. Do not be afraid of failure, but learn from it.”
Intentness — “Set a realistic goal. Concentrate on its achievement by resisting all temptations and being determined and persistent.”
Condition — “Mental-Moral-Physical. Rest, exercise and diet must be considered. Moderation must be practiced. Dissipation must be eliminated.”
Skill — “A knowledge of and the ability to properly and quickly execute the fundamentals. Be prepared and cover every little detail.”
Team Spirit — “A genuine consideration for others. An eagerness to sacrifice personal interests of glory for the welfare of all.”
Poise — “Just being yourself. Being at ease in any situation. Never fighting yourself.”
Confidence — “Respect without fear. May come from being prepared and keeping all things in proper perspective.”
Competitive Greatness — “Be at your best when your best is needed. Enjoyment of a difficult challenge."
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Favorite quotes from Dr. Brene Brown's "Daring Greatly"
"For leaders, vulnerability often looks and feels like discomfort. In his book Tribes: We Need You to Lead Us, Seth Godin writes, “Leadership is scarce because few people are willing to go through the discomfort required to lead. This scarcity makes leadership valuable. It’s uncomfortable to stand up in front of strangers. It’s uncomfortable to propose an idea that might fail. It’s uncomfortable to challenge the status quo. It’s uncomfortable to resist the urge to settle. When you identify the discomfort, you’ve found the place where a leader is needed. If you’re not uncomfortable in your work as a leader, it’s almost certain you’re not reaching your potential as a leader.” - Dr. Brene Brown, Daring Greatly
“Sometimes when we dare to walk into the arena the greatest critic we face is ourselves.”
“Connection: Connection is the energy that is created between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment. Belonging: Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are not only hollow substitutes for belonging, but often barriers to it. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.”
“Connection is why we're here; it is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives. The power that connection holds in our lives was confirmed when the main concern about connection emerged as the fear of disconnection; the fear that something we have done or failed to do, something about who we are or where we come from, has made us unlovable and unworthy of connection.”
“The power of owning our stories, even the difficult ones, is that we get to write the ending.”
“Empathy is connecting with the emotion that someone is experiencing, not the event or the circumstance.”
“I know I’m ready to give feedback when: I’m ready to sit next to you rather than across from you; I’m willing to put the problem in front of us rather than between us (or sliding it toward you); I’m ready to listen, ask questions, and accept that I may not fully understand the issue; I want to acknowledge what you do well instead of picking apart your mistakes; I recognize your strengths and how you can use them to address your challenges; I can hold you accountable without shaming or blaming you; I’m willing to own my part; I can genuinely thank you for your efforts rather than criticize you for your failings; I can talk about how resolving these challenges will lead to your growth and opportunity; and I can model the vulnerability and openness that I expect to see from you.”
“Again, there’s no question that feedback may be one of the most difficult arenas to negotiate in our lives. We should remember, though, that victory is not getting good feedback, avoiding giving difficult feedback, or avoiding the need for feedback. Instead it’s taking off the armor, showing up, and engaging.”
“What behaviors are rewarded? Punished? Where and how are people actually spending their resources (time, money, attention)? What rules and expectations are followed, enforced, and ignored? Do people feel safe and supported talking about how they feel and asking for what they need? What are the sacred cows? Who is most likely to tip them? Who stands the cows back up? What stories are legend and what values do they convey? What happens when someone fails, disappoints, or makes a mistake? How is vulnerability (uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure) perceived? How prevalent are shame and blame and how are they showing up? What’s the collective tolerance for discomfort? Is the discomfort of learning, trying new things, and giving and receiving feedback normalized, or is there a high premium put on comfort (and how does that look)?”
“It’s crazy how much energy we spend trying to avoid these hard topics when they’re really the only ones that can set us free.”
“The most powerful moments of our lives happen when we string together the small flickers of light created by courage, compassion, and connection and see them shine in the darkness of our struggles.”
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.”
“Vulnerability is not weakness, and the uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure we face every day are not optional. Our only choice is a question of engagement. Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.”
“Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”
“Hope is a function of struggle.”
“Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in.”
“Only when we’re brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
“Shame resilience is the ability to say, “This hurts. This is disappointing, maybe even devastating. But success and recognition and approval are not the values that drive me. My value is courage and I was just courageous. You can move on, shame.”
“We either own our stories (even the messy ones), or we stand outside of them—denying our vulnerabilities and imperfections, orphaning the parts of us that don’t fit in with who/what we think we’re supposed to be, and hustling for other people’s approval of our worthiness. Perfectionism is exhausting because hustling is exhausting. It’s a never-ending performance.”
